It was a 24 hour flight from Maryland to Ilo Ilo City, Philippines. It was how my family and I spent our Christmas, which was also my older sister’s birthday. But it was a dream we had all shared since we were little, when we made hundreds of situations where we met our Lola, or grandmother.
At the hotel we met some relatives and cousins. My cousins Stephen, Shelia-Mae, and Sonny-Ray all knew English. Stephen and Shelia-Mae spoke it incredibly well. Sonny-ray was deaf and dumb but texted with clarity and an obvious grasp of our language. I felt guilty that my mother had never taught us her home language aside from our little phrases. But regardless of our first language, we became very close, very fast. By then end of the week Shelia-Mae and I felt like best friends.
Our second day we met our Lola. She was frail and quiet. The nice clothes she wore to meet us clung to her bones-all of which were very noticeable. She did not know English but she knew us. She showed her pictures of us and wiped her tears. She pinched us and hugged us and I wondered how strong a woman so small and tiny could be. She was hardly up to my shoulder.
The next day we went to the barrio, the small village of our family, to visit her. They were preparing us a feast. It took us two hours to reach their city, Passi. Thirty minutes of travel on a bumpy, winding, mountainous path led us to the barrio. We stepped out of the car and I was tempted to step back inside. Over one hundred people stood staring at us. I felt nervous. My mother whispered to us that our relatives wore the clothes we sent them. The others came to see the Americans. We slipped down the muddy hill. They remained still; staring.
My Lola came out and showed us her house. It was the only-non bamboo house. She had shrines of us with our old toys and pictures. In the tiny kitchen was Filipino food and cakes dedicated to us. They sat us down and filled our plates. Everyone was staring still. We took a bite and the room began to eat; they couldn’t eat till we began. After eating we broke the silence with our other cousins. None of them spoke any English. Sonny-Ray danced, I sung a popular Tagalog song I knew and my sister played with children. Afterwards I was shocked to see my mom shimmy up a coconut tree. I followed and so did my brother and soon the tense atmosphere left. Too soon the day was gone and we left in the van. The children ran with us and stopped at the end of the road and waved till they couldn’t see us anymore. I waved until the mountain was gone. Then, I cried. It was my first time the whole trip. I cried because my Lola would die before we returned. I cried because I would miss them all terribly. I cried because they lived in poverty. I cried because when the flood seasons came and the winds blew at their leaf roofs, all they could do was cling to each other and hope the bamboo held. I cried because I was born lucky and they’d never have what I took for granted.
Nearly two years later we remember them. It hurt when we were home, a lot. My mother returned alone and brought boxes of food, clothes, and toys home. She said, “They miss us, too.”
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Cute. Made me hungry. Have you gone back since?
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Much better place in Palawan… like El Nido and Club Noah in taytay
Congratulations on your son's upcoming graduation!
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According to the WHTI website, you are required to obtain parents' permission, and we quote from them:
Groups of Children:
Beginning June 1, 2009, U.S. and Canadian citizen children under age 19 arriving by land or sea from contiguous territory and traveling with a school group, religious group, social or cultural organization, or sports team, may also present an original or copy of his or her birth certificate, a Consular Report of Birth Abroad, a Naturalization Certificate, or a Canadian Citizenship Card.
The group should be prepared to present a letter on organizational letterhead with the following information:
* The name of the group and supervising adult,
* A list of the children on the trip, and the primary address, phone number, date of birth, place of birth, and name of at least one parent or legal guardian for each child,
* A written and signed statement of the supervising adult certifying that he or she has obtained parental or legal guardian consent for each participating child.
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This sounds great! I’ve always wanted to go to New Orleans.
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“I was served a sublime slice of humble pie.” I liked that a lot. You have a bunch of great one-liners in here. Really well written!
Backpacking’ll do it. Great title!
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I like the bit about the B- movie vampire. Interesting!
Wow. I can’t imagine doing anything like this! Have you climbed more since?
Funny. Cool story!
good afternoon
wowww beautiful… nice place
thanks for sharing this camp, i think i should visit it with my family.
good read, thanks for this article
We have eaten at the restaurant and had drinks at the bar at this Ritz. Both times we left saying they need better customer service. Not up to Ritz standards in our opinion
Would visiting this resort cost me a lot?
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our senior group from penn estates would like info on a day trip to your facility as we have in the past. please forward info price etc for us to plan and open dates
We love KBH. We have returned many times and are always treated great and have a wonderful time. Price is great too.
This is definitely the wave of the future and will be a demand for traveling business people. I think it has a great design and works well for its intended purpose.
This is devastating. Well-written and insightful, though. Nicely done.
Wow, amazing. It’s interesting that this stuck out in your mind so well even after travelling to so many different locations. Well done!
This IS really good. You have a very captivating writing style; it brought be in at the very beginning. The rose thing was amazing. Well done!
what a joyful clever piece
i can see myself there
i think i dream when i see this beach
but i live in egypt
i love it so much. it's my dream. but now i dont have any money:-(
Please confirm my reservation for Aug 23 in the name of Hansford and Bortels. My question is: is the dining casual as in shorts and sandals? Thank you, and again please confirm my reservation.
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Sounds like fantastic, chaotic fun! Take us along next time!
Hilarious review. I'm not sure I would go but your honest review makes it almost tempting.
This place sounds just great. We had a similarly cultural and fun weekend at Kutscher's in the Catskills and perhaps some of their guests go to the Doral Arrowwood on alternate weekends!
Thanks for sharing what sounds like a great cheap family vacation.
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Nice article…I appreciate the effort for posting this…
In my experience, babies usually like the sound and smell of someone they miss, and may stop crying.
maybe your partner can make a tape/phone message of their voice, and leave behind some clothes, like pajamas, that they might feed the baby in. Having that to offer the baby might comfort her.
Another option is giving baby something warm and moving, like the feeling of being rocked in someone's arms. our son loved being wrapped in a blanket and held on top of the clothes dryer (turned on low), which moved a bit, made some sounds, and seemed to help him stop crying.
Otherwise, just wait. It is sure to pass.
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i'like porto saint georgo in italy why not in your list?
Funny. I enjoyed the bit about Notre Dame, the Eiffel Tower, etc.
This gave a wonderful picture of Dublin in my mind. I went to Ireland eight years ago; his brought me back.
I am also curious: what writing program were you on?